Those who have thought about why they had children cannot give a single reason that does not start with the words “I want….” Clearly to those who have thought about it, having children is entirely about meeting their own needs, and the well-being of the children and of the rest of the occupants of the planet are never considered.
The chestnuts generally presented as reasons for having children (Your child may cure cancer!...Who will take care of you when you’re old!) are invariably stupid, selfish and unrealistic. The chances of your child making any kind of major positive contribution to society are extremely slim - near to zero. Their chances of their making a major negative contribution are much greater. Three American-born scientists won 2003 Nobel prizes. That year around 100,000 Americans were sentenced to prison or probation.
I use to tell people, I don't really want children. If you say you don't want children, people will tell you that you don't know what you want or that you'll change your mind. It's never a good idea to obey those who condescend to you and patronize you.
Not having children you pick up on things parents say to their kids. People who have children frequently say things to their children like "I can't wait until you grow up and leave home" that indicates how little they enjoy child-raising. These same people will suddenly forget how much they wanted their children gone when it comes to pressuring the child free to have children. Then children are an unending source of enjoyment and fun.
OK, back to why we don't have kids.
In the past many years, I have seen countless doctors and specialist and come to find out, the medical reason, as far as I understand it, is that when I ejaculate, there is rarely, if ever, a woman in the room. (OK that was a joke!) The truth, I have no viable sperm. Due to various trauma and medical conditions I can't have children. It doesn't make me less of a person or man. I'm not even afraid to talk about it. Just don't look down your nose at me and think I'm something less, because I'm not. I have a family. My oldest is probably smarter than any of your college bound grads.
Yes, we are the people who have a furry family.